How do you live your life?
Do you believe that you are the cause of everything in your life, or do you think what happens to you is dependent on the people and circumstances surrounding you?
What we believe makes a difference in how we live our lives, and once we are aware of this, we can make it work for us, rather than against us.
All success in life is underpinned by the key principle of CAUSE AND EFFECT.
Many of us spend valuable parts of our lives at what is called ‘effect’; responding to the whims, desires and emotional states of other people.
The alternate side is living at ‘cause’; being decisive about creating what you want in life and seeing the world as a place of endless opportunities for you to try out. People living at cause take action to change their paths when they aren’t unfolding how they would like them to, taking responsibility for all of the difficult aspects of their lives and how they react to those difficulties.
For those people living at effect, there is always a reason why they think life isn’t working out for them – there is always someone, or something, at fault which is blocking them from their goals.
As you might expect, this will lead to a sense of powerlessness and despondency about life, and tends to be hand-in-hand with the thought…. ‘if only he or she were different’ or ‘why is it that this always happens to me.’
This person is, in effect, a victim of circumstances.
The truth is, there is no way to prove how much choice we have in determining our future.
However, there is evidence which shows that people who take on responsibility for everything that happens in life are the people that tend to lead more fulfilling and successful lives.
A valuable lesson to live by, which I have learnt through my studies of NLP (Neuro-Linguistic-Programming), is,
“there is no failure, only feedback”.
The meaning behind this is simply that everything that goes wrong in life is teaching in disguise, in some shape or form.